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Daffodil
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Posted: Mon Apr 23rd, 2007 04:28 pm |
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I have felt close to the breaking point lately, and it is beginning to interfere at home and at work. I'm a single working parent who feels a total lack of control over her toddler. My fiance is deployed, and the distance was bearable until his deployment was extended (it's been a year, and now we have to wait almost another half a year). It seems like the only way I have managed to hold on some days, is to go home on my lunch break and pray the rosary. Please pray for me to hold on a little while longer, and to find ways to cope and overcome negative thought patterns. I haven't been taking enough time lately to study the Bible and pray, so please pray for me to make the time.
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Truthseeker
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Posted: Mon Apr 23rd, 2007 05:55 pm |
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I'm sorry your having so many struggles. I will be praying for you.
Love, Laura
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Attaflo_5
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| First Name: | Maryellen | | Gender: | Female | | Faith History: | Cradle Catholic to Evangelical. Back to Catholic by ... |
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Posted: Mon Apr 23rd, 2007 10:36 pm |
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Dear Daffodil,
Thank you so much for the sacrifice you are making for your fellow citizens. Remember the famous quote "Those also serve who only stand and wait". Those of you left behind do far more than stand and wait. You endure, and it must be extremely difficult. I know it would be for me.
This is a very stressful time for you, and it's vitally important that you do all you can to take care of yourself and your toddler. Focus on getting healthy nutrition and good night's sleep. Your toddler is your primary obligation. This is the time when the young child needs strong guidance and character building from Mother. The toddler will test you on Boundaries and really wants and needs to know that you are the Boss. This is more important than the child's Self Esteem. A child feels far more secure when it knows who's the Boss of the household, and is made to live by that.
Since you find comfort in the Rosary it would be well to continue that. Also, offer up your sufferings to God, joined to the sufferings of Christ. This will actually make your burdens lighter and help you to focus on the critical job of Motherhood.
Make Jesus your partner while your fiance is gone. Just sit with Jesus and tell him all your troubles and let him comfort you. Better yet, if you can make the time to drop by church and sit in the chapel in front of the tabernacle for as much time as you can make, you will receive much strength from that.
I pray that God will make you strong. I pray that you will cling to Him. Resist Satan and he will flee. Go to Jesus, who told us to Come Unto Him, and He will give you Rest.
With Love and prayers
Maryellen
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David W. Emery
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Posted: Tue Apr 24th, 2007 01:10 am |
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Daffodil, this post of yours helps to explain what you were saying in the other thread. Life is full of suffering. This is a universal experience, not yours alone. But it is always balanced by our heavenly Father’s smile when he sees his children forgetting self and concentrating on the needs of others. You have one of those “others” assigned to you in the person of your child.
You speak of being plagued by “negative thought patterns.” I know you are capable of positive thought patterns as well, because you have demonstrated them. God helps you with these as you pray, so stay with it.
You are on my special prayer list. I don’t know how much God listens to me, but I do know he cares about all his children, the least as well as the greatest. Let him lead the way. He will give you the strength to follow.
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Daffodil
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Posted: Tue Apr 24th, 2007 12:09 pm |
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Thank you all for your prayers, and your advice. It has made such a difference to me!
This is the time when the young child needs strong guidance and character building from Mother. The toddler will test you on Boundaries and really wants and needs to know that you are the Boss. This is more important than the child's Self Esteem. A child feels far more secure when it knows who's the Boss of the household, and is made to live by that.
With your permission, I'd like to print this off and post it on my refrigerator. 
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Attaflo_5
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Posted: Tue Apr 24th, 2007 09:49 pm |
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Hi Daffodil
I'm flattered that you want to post my reply on your refrigerator (" With your permission, I'd like to print this off and post it on my refrigerator. ")
Of course you have my permission. I did a search on Amazon for books on Christian parenting, and found several I thought you would find helpful. I haven't checked on the forums policy for posting links, but you can send me an email to candmjones@yahoo.com if you want the link to these books, and I'll return it by email so you can check it out for yourself. This type of book would help you with a more positive attitude and would give you a clear sense of direction on the right and wrong ways to approach a child to foster obedience and respect. Sellers there offer used books at greatly reduced prices - sometimes as low as $5. - an excellent investment.
I grew up in a dysfunctional home and therefore I became a dysfunctional parent. But it doesn't have to be that way. My 6 children are grown now and they had access to psychological counseling help that prevented them from repeating my errors.
If you can carve out time to read and learn, you can overcome many deficits you may have in parenting skills. Dedicate this learning time to God. He is the perfect parent. He is firm but very loving and He would be pleased that you are reading to learn how to imitate his parenting methods.
Let me know if you want me to email the links to you.
Love and prayers
Maryellen
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Daffodil
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Posted: Wed Apr 25th, 2007 10:51 am |
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Thanks! 
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