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mrsbmoo
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| Joined: | Fri Sep 29th, 2006 |
| Location: | Virginia USA |
| Posts: | 341 |
| First Name: | Becky | | Gender: | Female | | Faith History: | former Methodist. RCA, Presbyterian, Holiness, Wesleyan... Catholic as of June ... |
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Posted: Sun Jan 28th, 2007 03:42 pm |
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My oldest daughter has been missing visitation with her Dad quite a bit since Christmas due to her being sick or having tons of schoolwork(which she is not allowed to do at his house) or wanting to get ready for an event from home. He has been becoming angrier and angrier about it and pressuring me to force her to come. Well, this weekend she had just come from the Dr(and I had the bill to prove it) because she had a bad bladder infection. She chose to stay home as his house has one bathroom without a lock and they 3 girls have to sleep in the livng room as the 2 bedrooms are for Dad and wife and the son from the marriage. At home she has her own room and we have 2 bathrooms so one is always free. He was angry and vented at her in my car when she wouldn't come in, telling her she was in violation of the court order and needed to go to court if she was refusing visitation. Well, she was in a lot of pain and feeling miserable and just listened to him and didn't say a word.
So then next morning he calls my house to yell at me for not forcing her. to come and told me I was a bad mom. When I told him I felt bullying and was not going to talk to him he talked to my daughter. She finally told him that she would go to court to end visitation if he forced the issue. Well, he backed down for the moment but her 2 sisters came home from his house saying that his wife was having a girls night out that she wasn't invited to and they are cross at bears. This is an on-going conflict not only about her visistation but his objections to her chosing to be Catholic. He tells her that unless it is in the Bible and she can defend every point of doctrine, she doesn't truly believe it and is being brainwashed. She is 15. I am 40 and couldn't defend every single point of faith so how is she against her father.
We are planning to go to a lawyer from my Sunday school class tomorrow if we can get an appointment and have her file papers asking the court to recognize her wishes. THis is so hard for her to go against her father. He is a large, angry, intimidating man and this is going to take great strength of character to withstand his pressure. Please keep her and my family in your prayers.
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Becky
Wife of Michael(called Moo) and stay at home mom to 5 daughters between 13 months and 17
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Juan
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| Joined: | Tue Oct 17th, 2006 |
| Location: | Texas USA |
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Posted: Sun Jan 28th, 2007 04:58 pm |
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Well, again, I don't know what to say. But I'll certainly keep all of you in my prayers.
Sincerely,
Juan
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David W. Emery
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| Joined: | Fri Sep 29th, 2006 |
| Location: | Brownsville, Texas USA |
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| First Name: | David | | Gender: | Male | | Faith History: | Catholic |
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Posted: Sun Jan 28th, 2007 06:05 pm |
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It sounds like your ex is trying to wrest control of the kids from you, and your choice to be Catholic is part of his motivation. He now feels that you are a “bad influence” on the children. The fact that your oldest is standing up to him is a marvellous example of faith. I believe you and she are taking the right course.
David
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