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kimdyuma
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| Location: | Arizona USA |
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| First Name: | Kim | | Gender: | Female | | Faith History: | cradle Anglican, Episcopal /Catholic-04/07/07 |
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Posted: Sat Jul 7th, 2007 05:07 pm |
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| After my slightly less than sucessful Holy week first confession I have not been back to confession but over the last few weeks the need to go has been growing in me. Part of the reason I haven't been back is that my parish has conffesion period that are difficult for me however the other parish has a Saturday am confessiont hat I can drop in to right after my quilting session in town so I went to today. Although I had no mortal sins there were certainly lots of venial ones. I came out of the booth feeling like a huge load is lifted off my shoulders.
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BettyBoopToo
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| Joined: | Mon Oct 9th, 2006 |
| Location: | Camas/Washougal, Washington USA |
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| First Name: | Betty | | Gender: | Female | | Faith History: | Fist Baptist/Calvary Babtist/Secular Confusion/ Roman Catholic |
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Posted: Sat Jul 7th, 2007 07:50 pm |
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kimdyuma wrote: After my slightly less than sucessful Holy week first confession I have not been back to confession but over the last few weeks the need to go has been growing in me. Part of the reason I haven't been back is that my parish has conffesion period that are difficult for me however the other parish has a Saturday am confessiont hat I can drop in to right after my quilting session in town so I went to today. Although I had no mortal sins there were certainly lots of venial ones. I came out of the booth feeling like a huge load is lifted off my shoulders.
Kim
I'm very thankful that you had a better time at your reconcilliation this time. I once had a very horrible experience on about my third time. That I was reminded of when you had mentioned your experience awhile back.
After my experience I had cried for days afterward and had such a difficult time returning that I think it took me about 4 months to even try again. I even made sure and went when we had a visiting priest.
My bad confession experience; I was at the Easter Triduim service and it was crowded the lines were long and there was a visiting priest in the regular confessional, Father saw it was so busy, so he went into the cry room and prepared it, for some reason the window curtain would not close all the way, so he had left it. for one, I'd never done it face to face and was nervous about that. then as soon as I got sat down next tofather and we had started. two little boys were out side of the window and noticed father in there with me and bagan knocking, laughing and waving to father. He was annoyed and kept jumping up and down to motion to them to stop and then he started half yelling at them, he was so annoyed. With all the disturbance and distraction and my nervious anxieties I completely lost my train of though and was trying to regain it, when father got annoyed with me and motioned wildly with his arms for me to Comon, comon, comon seveal times and this further caused me upset. I completely forgot about everything, his entire final comment was just angry and irritated. the little boys were still knocking on the window and now began making faces at us, as they further annoyed father. I just said, I'm done and started to cry and left. I was so traumatized by my experience that I could not go back for months and everytime I thought about it, I would start crying again. I seriously cried nearly the whole weekend. I was the worst.
So when someone shares a bad reconcilliation experience I'm always so sad for them. I know that it can be very damaging. I understand why you would have some issues. So I'm sorry that happened to you.
It's funny you mention this today, I was just sitting across the room and reading my newsletter from Karl Keating at Catholic Answers. His very first part of the news letter he tells of a bad experience that he had at reconcilliation once. It's a news letter meant to be shared so If I can figure out how to put it here, I'll do it. Karl has much more courage and knowledge than I when it comes to these thing and his reaction is interesting.
Here is the link incase you'd be interested in reading it. I'd just post the topic but the eletter has really spacific copy right rules and I think it's better I'm careful and do it this way where it's open for anyone on the site.
http://catholic.com/newsletters/kke_070703.asp
As I'm sitting here trying to decide if I'm going early to mass and make my confession.
God Bless Dear, I'm really glad to hear you had a more possitive experience.
Betty
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Katy
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| Joined: | Fri Sep 29th, 2006 |
| Location: | DFW, Texas USA |
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| First Name: | Katy | | Gender: | Female | | Faith History: | Non-denom/Bible churches, Catholic since Easter 2005 |
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Posted: Mon Jul 9th, 2007 11:42 pm |
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Oh Betty, I am so very sorry to hear about your bad experience at Confession. That must have been awful. I know I would have left in tears too! I'm glad you were able to go back and hopefully had a better experience. I am very thankful to have found a wonderful confessor at my parish. He is the Parochial Vicar, and he is a very sweet man from India. It has been nice to get to know him, and I love going to confession with him. I will pray that you find someone like Father A.
Kim, I am glad that you had a better experience at confession, also. My parish now has confession times every day, which makes it very convenient to go when needed.
-Katy
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BettyBoopToo
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| Location: | Camas/Washougal, Washington USA |
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| First Name: | Betty | | Gender: | Female | | Faith History: | Fist Baptist/Calvary Babtist/Secular Confusion/ Roman Catholic |
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Posted: Tue Jul 10th, 2007 01:37 am |
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Katy wrote: Oh Betty, I am so very sorry to hear about your bad experience at Confession. That must have been awful. I know I would have left in tears too! I'm glad you were able to go back and hopefully had a better experience. I am very thankful to have found a wonderful confessor at my parish. He is the Parochial Vicar, and he is a very sweet man from India. It has been nice to get to know him, and I love going to confession with him. I will pray that you find someone like Father A.
Kim, I am glad that you had a better experience at confession, also. My parish now has confession times every day, which makes it very convenient to go when needed.
-Katy
Katy; Thank you, but I really learned alot from my particular experiance. I had lived a secular life for about 25 yrs and had picked up a rediculous habit of rationalizing my every sin. I often notice it in others who don't practice any faith, but I don't really know the phycology of the matter. I just know it was a bad habit. I had never been called to examine myself so even as an adult I was in less shape than a child. People don't think about or examine themselves in the secular world and I was one of those people. I believe this is a virtue that we have to practice to learn to better see our selves honestly. People in the world are better equiped to make excuses for themselves than to look at our self honestly.
When I first began trying to examine my conscience I would still be in the state of mind and feel I had to somehow explain myself or rationalize sins (kind of in confession too) and this is not a good thing. this is a state of pride and arrogance. on my part. God does not want to hear my excuses and he knows the truth as to whats going on in my heart. I just had not practiced and was in desparate need to practice.
Even though father probably does not even remember the incident and if he does, he certainly most likely does not know that the bad experience made me go back home and really get down to business with this problem that I have. I could not even tell you when it began or how I had picked this up, but It was just a bad habit in all area's in my life and needed to be haulted.
The funny thing is, I had been praying that if I ever was corrected by father that the lord would help me and teach me how to humbly except it. So I think the lord was just giveing me some testing.
I had previously had difficulty in following instructions given by men and especially men younger than me. My pastor is 10 yrs younger than I. My husband thought there would be no way that I would last in the Catholic church and he watched patiently while I struggled with my self and my own personal difficulties & serious faults.
I still go to the same confessor and he is a wonderful man and I dearly love my pastor, He was having a stressful busy time and I on top of the boys was being annoying.
But it was such an experiance. LOL
Betty
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"Whenever anything disagreeable or displeasing happens to you, remember Christ crucified and be silent."
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