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Terry
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| Joined: | Wed Oct 11th, 2006 |
| Location: | Oxford, Mississippi USA |
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| First Name: | Terry | | Gender: | Female | | Faith History: | Episcopal, Roman Catholic |
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Posted: Fri Oct 20th, 2006 07:42 pm |
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I received word this week that my previous marriage has finally been annuled. It has been a long and painful process but the wait, of course, has been well worth it. I had the strangest reaction to the news, I felt like a huge weight had been lifted from my shoulders and felt total peace. I never expected to have such a reaction. I'm not sure what the next step will be and am waiting for directions from our parish priest. It's odd that I'm not rushing him, I am just happy knowing that we will finally be able to participate fully in our Catholic faith. This forum has been a great help in getting through the last couple of years. Although I don't post very often I am truly grateful to all those that do, especially David and Rick.
Thanks to all,
Terry
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CajunRick
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| Joined: | Fri Sep 29th, 2006 |
| Location: | Houma, Louisiana USA |
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Posted: Fri Oct 20th, 2006 07:50 pm |
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Terry wrote: I received word this week that my previous marriage has finally been annuled.
Congratulations, Terry. I'm glad we could help. Your parish should contact you when you receive the written notice; if not, bring them a copy for their records.
How long did it take, and can you describe the process (for the benefit of those who are still waiting)?
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Understanding is the reward of faith. Therefore seek not to understand that you may believe, but believe that you may understand. - Augustine
Rick Luquette
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Terry
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| Location: | Oxford, Mississippi USA |
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| First Name: | Terry | | Gender: | Female | | Faith History: | Episcopal, Roman Catholic |
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Posted: Mon Oct 23rd, 2006 05:53 pm |
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It took about a year and a half and was a frustrating experience. If I had to do it over again, I would make sure that I understood exactly the type of information that was needed. It took a few months before getting any response to the initial information I submitted and then it was to ask for more witnesses. Then I sent more useless information because I submitted names of witnesses that did not know my ex husband and I before we were married. I did not know it was useless until one of the people that responded brought the forms over for me to help her with. It was at this time that I realized from reading the questions that the witness had to know both my ex and I prior to our marriage. My previous marriage ended over 25 years ago and finding witnesses that knew us before we were married was next to impossible. The ones I did find, did not want my ex to be able to read their testimony which rendered their help useless. Which, once again, I did not realize until afterwards. This seemed like such a waste of time on the part of the witnesses that completed the forms if it was not going to be able to be used. Each time I responded immediately to the tribunals requests and then I wouldn't hear anything from them for 3 or 4 months. It was hard not to get frustrated. Finally when we thought it might not get nullified because of lack of witnesses, our priest made an appointment for me with a psychiatrist that met with me and acted as an expert witness. Obviously, it worked!!!!!
I know 18 months does not seem like a long time in the scheme of things but when the Eucharist is withheld pending the outcome, it is painful.
On the positive side, my husband's annullment took about 9 months. His was not as involved as mine though because he was baptized Catholic but was not raised Catholic. At least I gather that is why his was easier and faster.
Anyone that is contemplating the nullification process needs to make sure they understand exactly what is needed for the process to move smoothly. This is probably more information than anyone needs but maybe it will shed a little light on the process.
Terry
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mrsbmoo
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| Location: | Virginia USA |
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| First Name: | Becky | | Gender: | Female | | Faith History: | former Methodist. RCA, Presbyterian, Holiness, Wesleyan... Catholic as of June ... |
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Posted: Tue Oct 24th, 2006 01:18 pm |
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I think what you are saying is true about it being hard to determine what you need to tell the tribunal. I, too had to get more witnesses and almost all of mine had to be family members of mine because my ex and I had no other friends prior to the marriage and what few there were, I didn't know how to contact as they had been his friends. Strangely enough, the one event that I think got me my annulment, which I had forgotten about, came to me when I was praying the rosary. I even had a witness for it.
On the other hand, I don't think it is any easier if you had been protestant all your life. Sometimes it is harder because many people don't want to testify as witnesses because they tghink the process is at best useless or at worst wrong.
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Becky
Wife of Michael(called Moo) and stay at home mom to 5 daughters between 7 months and 16
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thestickman
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| Location: | Taylors, South Carolina USA |
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Posted: Mon Dec 18th, 2006 12:27 am |
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Congrats, Terry!
I know what you mean by feeling *relief*. My wife and I were brought into the Catholic Church this past September after a 2+ year annulment process finally concluded with a decree of nullity being granted. While our annulment experience was very unpleasant (don't ask, just trust me, please!), to say it was all worth the wait/unpleasantness would be an enormous understatement.
God continues to Bless us in ways we see and in ways we cannot. May He continue to shower you with His Grace all your days upon the earth.
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