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Cinlite
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Posted: Thu Aug 21st, 2008 12:30 am |
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I can relate to what you have written. I have also heard the phrase "I did not marry a CATHOLIC when I married you." And I have also heard that since he is my husband that he is the head of our home and he is advising me that I should not be doing this to our marriage. My reply is that I have always honored our marriage as a Christian marriage (32 years this fall) but it is Jesus that I will stand accountable to at the Judgement not him. I always say this with respect but I stand firm on this one. It is particularly difficult for him to deal with since I am not accustomed to challenging him head on.
Just yesterday we had a little tiff about the Church.
I was trying to get him to watch a rerun of an interview that Marcus Grodi did with Scott Hahn. He would not watch it and said that they were clueless as Presbyterians and now clueless to have joined the Catholic Church. He is from the Protestant Charismatic tradition and does not hold either Church in high esteem. I had some strong words in response to his comments.
To make matters more frustrating for me, my husband is the one that holds the key to me entering the Church and he refuses to accommodate me by having his first marriage annulled for me to enter in full communion.
Oddly enough, he will be attending his first Mass when he attends the funeral Mass of a dear friend who passed away. It will be on September 8th and I am praying that the Holy Spirit will miraculously touch his heart through this experience. I will do the only thing I can do......PRAY!! (8.5 years and counting)
God Bless us all who are going through this type of ordeal. We need a special measure of grace to pass through this era of our lives.
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Steven Barrett
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Posted: Thu Aug 21st, 2008 03:50 am |
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 Cynthia, you've got my prayers, there sister. You shouldn't have to endure this. I get so sick of hearing so many cases of primogeniture, or the man only wears the pants and so forth in some of these minor Protestant denominations and it just makes me wonder if they missed a few centuries.
Not that I'm a flaming a liberal. Not by a long shot if you listen to my wife and daughters ( ) but gee whiz, this is a bit much. Needless to say we're all proud of you for standing your ground without also giving an inch backwards in your love. Hard as he is to figure out, love him to death and pray him to life so that one day he'll see.
After all, think of Scott Hahn's wife who was about to have him for breakfast, lunch and dinner before she came around! 
Keep the faith Cynthia, I'm praying for you and no doubt many others are, too!
Steven
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PKR
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Posted: Fri Aug 22nd, 2008 12:02 am |
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I'll pray for you as well Cynthia. It's hard when you look forward to being involved in the life of a church, and then the Church is unveiled to you. At least that's been my experience. I liken it to the experience of climbing the Grand Teton, which I did a long time ago. There's a false summit called "Disapointment Peak". From below, it looks like the summit. When you get on top of it, you see the real summit. Right now I feel like I'm standing a top Disappointment Peak looking up at the real summit, wondering when I will get there.
Cynthia - Here's a hard question. Do you ever contemplate when the time will come when there's no alternative but to enter fully into the Church. That's a scenario I wonder about every once in awhile.
Cajun Rick: I'm not even sure the sentiment "for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health" was intoned during our wedding ceremony. The Disciples of Christ and the UCC play fast and loose with liturgy. Nevertheless, that is a sentiment I embrace. Right now, I'm not sure my wife would stay with me if I were to enter the Church. The subject of the Church is a bit of a dormant one between us at the moment. I pray to God and the saints to assist me with the timing on when to bring up the subject, and the words to use...
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Cinlite
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Posted: Fri Aug 22nd, 2008 01:29 am |
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I am not sure what you mean by the one comment....I do envision a day that I will be in full communion. It may take a while, but ONE THING I KNOW FOR SURE. Two wrongs do not make a right.....meaning we have a Christian marriage and there has been much fruit from that. We have been married for 32 years and divorce would not make the situation right. I pray he will cooperate with what he has to do to comply with my entrance into the Church. I try not to place too much pressure on him to convert. I am not the Holy Spirit and I would never try to place myself in that position however I am employing some useful apologetic tools. At this point I look forward to my entrance into full communion. God knows the day.....I don't. I do know that it is HIS WILL that I do this. Why on earth would I subject myself to this if I didn't believe the Catholic Church is the one true Church. Right now I am making some progress with my sons. That brings me some satisfaction for now.....Isn't patience one of the fruits of the Spirit?? After nine years....I am proving fruitful however challenging it is.
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Posted: Fri Aug 22nd, 2008 03:21 am |
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Cynthia,
I bow to your reply.
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