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cyanheaven
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Posted: Mon Jun 16th, 2008 06:42 pm |
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To be brief: I am officially engaged now, and have already begun talking to my parents about having a Catholic wedding. Understandably this has become a sticky situation. I also can not seem to find anything concrete online to help me differentiate between a Catholic Wedding and a Nuptial Mass. The only thing I know for sure is that the Catholic wedding does not include the consecration of the host. As of right now, my mother wants the wedding to be performed at the chapel at a nearby college which is methodist and honestly very beautiful and traditional looking. However, the stained glass throughout include 10-ft tall figures of John Knox, John Wesley, Martin Luther, etc. I understand a wedding, and a marriage, is all about compromise, but this feels like an unexeptable one.
Are Catholic Weddings allowed to be performed outside a Catholic Sanctuary anyway? Do any of you know where I can look at guidelines from the RCC about stipulations surround a Catholic Wedding (verses a Nuptial Mass). Me becoming Cathlic and us having a Catholic Wedding that is both inline with and blessed by the Catholic Church is very important to me.
Callie
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Posted: Mon Jun 16th, 2008 07:13 pm |
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cyanheaven wrote: I also can not seem to find anything concrete online to help me differentiate between a Catholic Wedding and a Nuptial Mass.
The primary difference is that a Catholic wedding service without mass is a Liturgy of the Word with scripture readings and a homily, followed by the exchange of vows and dismissal. The Offertory, Eucharistic Prayer, and Communion are left out.
Many couples choose to be married without mass, especially if one of the spouses is not Catholic or a large percentage of the family is not.
the stained glass throughout include 10-ft tall figures of John Knox, John Wesley, Martin Luther, etc. I understand a wedding, and a marriage, is all about compromise, but this feels like an unexeptable one.
This sounds unacceptable to me as well.
Are Catholic Weddings allowed to be performed outside a Catholic Sanctuary anyway?
Yes, with permission from the bishop. There must be a compelling reason. One such reason might be to have the wedding in the church where the bride grew up if she was not Catholic. Many things are possible with advance planning and permission of the bishop.
Do any of you know where I can look at guidelines from the RCC about stipulations surround a Catholic Wedding (verses a Nuptial Mass).
Callie, each diocese makes their own regulations, so you'll have to check with your own priest and diocese. Our diocese has an Office of Family Ministry which could provide that information, but it is not available online.
I strongly suggest that you make an appointment with your priest to learn what is permitted in your own diocese.
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january tuesday
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Posted: Tue Jun 17th, 2008 11:38 pm |
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Callie,
Remember that this is your wedding. I know where you're coming from. I am not engaged, but my parents are very unhappy that I have become Catholic and I occasionally think/worry about how I will handle my wedding in the future. I think it's very sweet that you are trying to compromise, and I think thats good, but if the portraits of Martin Luther and other reformers make you uncomfortable then I don't think that anyone should expect you to be married there. Don't go to such lengths to make your family comfortable that you feel uncomfortable.
I hope that things with your family go smoothly! Remember that your wedding day is first and foremost about the joining of you and you husband in the sacrament of marriage, and secondly a ceremony and party for your family and friends 
-Karli
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wmschrader
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Posted: Wed Jun 18th, 2008 02:21 am |
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Have you considered Saint Mary's Cathedral in Austin? I understand it has gone through a beautiful restoration in the last several years.
Here is a link to their wedding guidelines: http://www.saintmaryscathedral.org/index.cfm?load=page&page=156
You might also checkout Saint William's in Round Rock. http://saintwilliams.org/
A beautiful new church.
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kersca
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Posted: Wed Jun 18th, 2008 12:32 pm |
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Callie,
My wife is a member of the Church of Christ butr also a former Catholic who received baptism/confirmation, etc... Well, the funny thing was, I was willing to have the ceremony at her church but they wouldn't because I was baptized as an infant. They were willing to look the other way on my previous marriage (anulled) because there was some marital infidelity though. We were married in the Catholic Church but had a ceremony rather than a Mass. It was good. My priest allowed her pastor to say a few words and he was polite and read from the NAB and kept it just to thoughts on marriage. Some members of her church did not attend and I suppose that boils down to their apprehensions of the Catholic Church. Oh well, it was nice and we enjoyed it. I was glad we did it that way because our wedding served as a little bit of evangelization for members of her church. Plus, I gave an open invite to men in my Knights of Columbus council to attend the church service and a bunch attended. It really makes you realize that we are all members of a larger community. Keep praying on this though. We are nearing our first anniversary and our biggest obstacle has been religious ones. I an pretty sure it will be a big issue in your marriage as well.
Adam
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Posted: Wed Jun 18th, 2008 01:54 pm |
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Hi ... I can only speak from pretty much a point of ignorance on Catholic weddings, as I am not RC at present, but .... I agree with Karli ..... remember that this is YOUR wedding, not your mother's, not any of your family's. It is your day and you and your future husband should be able to decide how and where you have it. I know the pressure is strong from family, so hopefully this can be accomplished without too much difficulty.
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cyanheaven
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Posted: Wed Jun 18th, 2008 09:42 pm |
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january tuesday wrote: I hope that things with your family go smoothly! Remember that your wedding day is first and foremost about the joining of you and you husband in the sacrament of marriage, and secondly a ceremony and party for your family and friends
-Karli
Thanks, this helps alot. I have along letter that I am almost ready to send to my mom but me and my fiance' are going to mass tonight to pray about everything. If God finds this compromise acceptable then I will choose the chapel, if not we will look elsewhere.
Thanks for all the comments and reminding me about St. Williams, its actually only 15 minutes away from my parents so that might end up being a compromise.
We will see, to God be the glory!
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Posted: Wed Jun 18th, 2008 10:35 pm |
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Oh and I can't believe I forgot to mention this earlier.
I've been meeting with a Deacon of one of the parishes I attend for the past few months, and last night he offered to do RCIA with me starting soon. This is a huge praise because my current job requires quite abit of loyalty and time during the fall for a Christmas production that is put on here.
God is good!
Thanks for the prayers, btw!
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